Communication in Relationships: Relationship Satisfaction and Communication Styles

One of the main reasons most couples enter therapy is a complaint of communication issues. Many feel like they fight, yell, scream or simply do not understand each other after some time. This failure to communicate can leave one or both partners feeling stuck, confused, and unfulfilled by their relationships.

 Numerous research studies have found connections between positive communication and relationship satisfaction. Bradbury and Karney, 2013, provided cross sectional evidence that couples in distress display more negative communication patterns and displayed fewer positive communication strategies during times of high conflict than couples who were satisfied in their relationships. The Gottman Institute which spearheads the world of “relationship building” encourages couples to exercise intentional communication as a way to turn towards each other during challenging times and strengthen bonds over time. Again focusing on communication styles and leaving little room for exploration of other factors that also contribute to relationship satisfaction. 

While these examples point out the fact that communication is essential in relationships. Consideration must be given to factors other than communication to clearly determine the level of impact it has to relationship satisfaction.

A 2016 study by Lavner, Karney, and Bradbury warns against prioritizing communication in couple’s therapy and focusing on other factors which, through a brief analysis of the research, help to improve overall satisfaction in a relationship as well. Some of these other factors include the quality of time spent together, sexual intimacy frequency and quality, and the ability for both partners to manage their stress levels so that acute stress does not negatively impact the relationship. This analysis suggestions focus on the importance of a thorough analysis of relationship satisfaction in order to address all the necessary factors. 

Therapy can help assist a couple with identifying these other factors and building satisfying relationships. 

Work With Cardelia Dischert, LMHC

Cardelia Dischert, LMHC, is a seasoned therapist who supports adults navigating marriages, complex relationships, and life transitions. With over 18 years of experience, she offers a warm, evidence-based approach to help you process your emotions, reconnect with your sense of self, and move forward without shame.Whether you’re dealing with the feeling stuck in your relationship or unsure how to get out of a negative a pattern of bickering with your partner, Cardelia provides a safe, affirming space to do the work at your own pace.

You Deserve to Heal on Your Terms

You don’t have to figure it all out alone. Couples therapy can help you move through the hurdles of relationship challenges with clarity and support.

During a couple’s session with Cardelia Dischert, she will assess the current level of relationship satisfaction and then work collaboratively with the couple to create a unique treatment plan that includes other factors that are decreasing satisfaction within the relationship to help restore harmony within the relationship. 

Book a consultation with Cardelia Dischert, LMHC, today to begin your healing journey.